Pain Points Hinder You
There are things about each one of us that negate what makes us winners. Those habits and traits often get in our way and prevent us from being at our very best. Those are our ‘pain points.” For this post, I’ll use myself as an example. One of the things I struggle with is organizing myself. I am an adult with ADHD and sometimes the struggle is real! There can easily be piles of paper, sticky notes everywhere, and checklists. Even in a technology-rich environment, clearing my messy desk can be a challenge. The key for me is remembering that being personally organized is a challenge, not an impossibility. It’s also helpful that a mentor long ago reminded me to embrace the gifts of my traits. Creativity, joy, laser-focus on things that interest me, the ability to see the bigger picture, and the ability to bring people together are among the gifts my ADHD exemplifies. Those parts of me help me excel. Being personally organized can be a struggle. How can I be better positioned to accel instead of struggle? Answers came to me in a couple of ways. One was hearing JK Rollins, author of the Harry Potter series of books shared in an interview with Oprah Winfrey the way she got unstuck when she encountered writer’s block. “I have resources,” she proclaimed to herself. So, she made a hotel reservation and used the money to buy the quiet time and quiet space she needed. My takeaways were 1) I have resources. People resources are great, and so are the financial resources. and 2) Quiet time and space are valuable. Another friend of mine, Dr. Ted Sun once told me not to do the things I don’t want to do. By this, he was referring to tasks in my business and in life that detract from bringing me joy and don’t actually need to depend on me to get them done. These are two aha moments that helped me tremendously. Here’s how I activated those nuggets of wisdom to remove some of the struggle:
Point to the Pain
People who can do all things well are the exception, not the norm. Even then, there isn’t enough time in a day for a person to do everything well. Doing things well takes time. Research takes time. Preparing for a meeting takes time. Communication takes time. See the pattern here? Yes! Everything takes time. We use the 24-hour per day, 60 minutes in an hour, and 60 seconds in a minute way of measuring time. To this end, time becomes measurable and finite. With only so much time and knowing that doing some things well takes a lot of time, we can find ways to maximize our time. One way my time gets maximized is by hiring the help I need. Yes, hiring the help makes the presupposition that the resources to hire the help is available. We can discuss goals, belief, and manifesting another time. For now, recognize that I have an awareness that hiring help takes resources. This post assumes that this is known and envisions what can happen when it’s present and well activated.
In hiring the help I needed, the first step was asking myself where I needed the help. I developed the table below to help me identify the areas of greatest opportunity. On a Likert scale of 1-5 with 1 being the lowest and 5 being the highest, I scored elements of maintaining the home. This is also where I have a home office. So, having things in order at the house makes it less likely to be distracting
Like Doing: 1 5
Do not like doing this at all I really like doing this
How Well: 1 5
I don’t do this well at all I am really good at doing this
Look at the table below. Yes, this is my actual example:
|Whole House Cleaning
|Maintenance & Repairs
Just seeing this messy desk makes me want to ask for help!
Notice the two items with the lowest score? Yes, Mantenance & Repairs I neither like doing, nor do I do well. And maintaining a Clean Desk is something that I neither like doing, nor do I do this well. The table above is a tool to help me make a decision. It isn’t the final decision maker, but it is a tool to help me locate my pain point. The next question I ask is “Which item gives me the greatest grief at the moment?” In other words, “Does my lack of ability or desire to do maintenance and repairs occupy my mind? And does my messy desk bother me more?” Currently, the messy desk is the winner. Yes, when I scan this list, the item that gives me a sinking feeling in my stomach is the messy desk. Next, I ask myself “How much better would I feel if this was no longer a challenge?” and then I ask myself “Who or what can make this challenge go away in a way that is joyful for them, and gives me joy because I don’t have it as an obstacle any longer?” You might ask how a what can resolve an issue. AI can be a great tool to help lift some burdens. I can talk about that another time, if you’d like. In the meantime, this post will focus on people solutions.
After identifying and confirming with myself where I would like to start, from there I get to work on hiring the help I need.
Point to the Process
Okay, we are making meaningful progress. Using my example of a ‘clean desk.” I work through the operational definition of what clean means to me. In my case, a clean desk means:
- A desk that is clear of clutter
- All of the paperwork and information I will need later is stored in a safe place
- I can retrieve whatever I am looking for in 10 seconds or less (Six Sigma 5S….we can address this in a future conversation if you’re interested)
Point Out the People
Now, it’s time to pinpoint a person to take away the pain. After being clear with myself about my operational definition, I proceed to answer the next question “Where might I find a reliable person who can remove this obstacle?” Some spaces I might research include:
- Friend group
- Local Associations
- Retirement Communities
Your Friend Group can be a direct, or indirect resource. At this stage in my life and career, my friends have grown in professional responsibility. Their network could be extended to me in some cases. Who, among my group of friends do I know as an organized person? I write their names on my list and plan to place a call asking if they can help me directly, or if they know someone whom I can hire to help me.
LinkedIn can be great when searching for people with specific skills. Enter a few tag words and include a location, if the person needs to come to me. Then, send a message and connect. Some people are great at responding. Others are a bit slow. Even that will help you decide whom to further connect with.
Fiverr is an app that can connect you with talented people throughout the world who are part of the gig economy.
Local Associations like your local Chamber of Commerce or Rotary could be good places to start. Organizations like those have many members with talents that they are usually ready, willing, and able to use to help you.
Retirement Communities could be a great treasure for finding a people solution. In the case of my desk becoming permanently clean and organized, there could be a real gem of a person who is looking forward to doing something meaningful and uses a skill they have likely perfected through the years. It might take a bit more time and relationship-building to find that gem of a person. In great finds like these, it is possible to gain more goodness than you anticipated!
From there, I proceed to make connections that lead me to the right people for the job.
Knowing that help is on the way can make for a brighter day!